Learning about when and why to apologize is an important skill.
There are times when apologizing is appropriate and other times it is not.
It is part of taking responsibility which leads to a happier and successful life.
There are times when apologizing is appropriate.
Other times it is not productive.
Discussing and learning about apologizing can assist us throughout our life.
HOW WE HANDLE FAILURE:
We have failures throughout our lifetimes.
We let down others who are relying on us.
During these times how we react is most important.
IN AVOIDING APOLOGIZING:
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You deny your mistake.
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You make excuses.
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You blame it on something or someone else.
RESULTS:
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You create more problems for yourself and your group.
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You annoy others.
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You worsen the situation.
IN APOLOGIZING:
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You accept the blame.
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You admit your mistakes.
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You don’t blame others or outside circumstances.
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You don’t offer excuses.
RESULTS:
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You deflate the intensity of the situation.
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You become more trusted and dependable.
The quickest path to a solution after a mistake is to admit you made it in the first place.
IN APOLOGIZING TOO MUCH:
We likely have met people who suffer from the “Sorry Syndrome.”
People saying sorry too much may be:
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Submissive – Feel they should not have their own personal needs.
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Compassionate – Care a great deal about the feeling of others.
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Agreeable – Want to avoid conflict.
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Fearful of discipline -Had a strict authoritarian upbringing.
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Anxious -Have an underlying sense of impending doom.
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Lack confidence.
The solution is to take responsibility for our life.
This can lead to a happy and successful life.
You can find out more in the previous post “TAKING RESPONSIBILITY” at:
http://www.ourfutureleaders.ca/program-activities/taking-responsibility/
WHAT CAN WE DO?
Youth group sessions have clearly demonstrated that our youth learn the desired soft skills.
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EVERY CHILD DESERVES A WONDERFUL FUTURE.
Fred Jones
Victoria, BC Canada
Learning about and practicing apologies is not a individual effort but your half of an two persons event. The apology is the recognition of error and the request for forgiveness. The acceptance and granting of that forgiveness is the reciprocal act which restores the dignity of both parties to the causing event. Thus great care and mutual understanding of the relationship is involved. A huge skill to acquire and understand and use.