• We often stop trying to achieve when afraid of failing.

• Discussing failure can assist us to realize that failure can have a positive effect.

• Such discussions enable the group to learn from, support, and encourage each other.

Many of us are afraid of failing.

The fear of failure can stop us from trying to achieve our goals.

CAUSES:

During Childhood:

• We may have critical or non-supportive adults in our lives.

• Non-supportive adults may be parents, teachers, coaches, etc.

• When we feel unsupported, humiliated or undermined, we can have negative feelings.

• Negative feelings can carry into adulthood.

 During Adulthood:

• A traumatic event can cause fear of failure.

• An example of a traumatic event is that you presented an important presentation poorly.

• For years, this bad experience may cause you to carry a fear of failing at other things.

DISCUSSIONS:

Have the youth group discuss failure.

• They can discuss or debate:

  • a) we can see failure as how inadequate we are, or

  • b) we can look at it as an incredible learning experience.

• How do failures stop us if we let them?

• What are the lessons we can learn from failure?

• How can failing enable us to grow?

• What mistakes can this prevent us from repeating?

• What can we do to prevent fear of failure from stopping us from moving forward?

ADDITIONAL DISCUSSION TOPICS:

It’s important to realize that there is always a chance that we may fail.

A few ways to reduce the fear of failing:

Analyze all potential outcomes:

Consider all the potential outcomes of your decision. This can remove the fear of the unknown.

Take a positive approach:

Discuss various ways to change your thoughts. A positive approach can create self-confidence and neutralize worries.

The worst-case scenario:

Often, what would appear initially to be the worst case, may prove to not be that bad after all. Recognizing this can help.

Plan B:

If you are afraid of failing at something, have a “Plan B” in place. This can help you feel more confident to proceed. Role models:

Research and discuss those who failed and went on to achieve success. The world is full of examples for them to discuss.

Set small, achievable goals:

Discuss setting small goals that will help build your confidence. When moving forward slowly and steadily, fears can be overcome.

Introducing discussions about the fear of failure will allow them to:

• Support each other,

• Learn from each other,

• Encourage each other,

• Take small steps.

• Congratulate each other.

Discussing failure can assist them to realize that failure can have a positive effect.

We often learn more from our failures than from easy successes.

In our coaching, we can discuss failure and its effects. This will assist our youth to cope with our rapidly changing world.